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How Non-Resident Fathers Can Make A Difference In Their Child’s Life
We all know that most Jamaican households are female-headed – the mother plays both the breadwinner and the caregiver roles for her family. Where is the father and what role does he play? Although the father may not live with the family, hardly visits or does not provide financial support, chances are they are out on the road boasting about how many children they have.
We have to admit that there are quite a number of fathers who do not live with their children but are still very good caregivers who love and support their children. Not all non-resident fathers are ‘deadbeat’.
According to the Planning Institute of Jamaica and the United Nations Children’s Fund (2009), a father is responsible, provides for his family, cares for his children, sets good examples, gives guidance and emotional support to his family, and nurtures and raises his children.
People often say that the most important thing in raising children is to give them lots of love, something that all parents can do, regardless of whether they are a mother or a father, and regardless of whether they live with their children or not.
There are many reasons why a father may not live with the mother and their child or children. Sometimes, it is for the best. Social scientists often emphasize the role of fathers in the family system, and how their actions affect the entire environment and context in which a child grows.
Social psychologist, Dr. Herbert Gayle, has long since explained that “manhood” and “fatherhood” in Jamaican society, is determined by how well he can provide financially for his family. However, Gayle’s study (2002) revealed that, in many cases, males enter the workforce prematurely and are thus “robbed of the chance to reach their full potential”. Therefore, many men will never be able to provide for their families as they would like to.
If a father is unable to sufficiently provide for his family, he may become detached, physically and emotionally. Sometimes, especially in the case of divorce, it is the woman who pushes the father out of their children’s lives. Some mothers believe that the presence of the father causes more harm than good as women fear that their sons may turn out to be worthless “just like yuh fadda”.
One of the most important ways a father influences that environment in which the children grow is in his interaction with his children’s mother. This is because the relationships which children observe and experience at an early age influence their own relationships later in life. If a mother constantly curses the father for not being good enough, the child might grow to resent his or her father or a young girl may grow to resent males on a whole.
Statistics show that children tend to do better when they have a good relationship with both of their parents. However, if the parents are not able or willing to live together, that is no excuse for a father’s absence in their children’s lives and women need to understand this. There are many ways that non-resident fathers can bring unique strengths to their relationships with their children.
Non-resident fathers can still make a difference for their children by:
The National Family Planning Board encourages all fathers, whether resident or non-resident, to take this role seriously and lead by example by being responsible, providing for his family, caring for his children, giving guidance and emotional support and nurturing his children – all that a good father should be. The Board also recommends that women consider the issues that may arise from the father’s absence. If a man is and does all the above, and is willing to be a part of his children’s lives, let him.
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In observation of World Contraception Day on September 26, the National Family Planning Board (NFPB) donated just under half a million Jamaican dollars worth of contraceptives to the Victoria Jubilee Hospital and the Women’s Centre Foundation Jamaica’s Adolescent Clinic in Kingston.
The donations consisted of a variety of contraceptives, including the Copper-T intrauterine device (IUD), the Jadelle implant, vials of the Depo Provera injection and male condoms. The NFPB recognises the importance and convenience of Long-Acting Reversible Contraceptives (LARCs), particularly for adolescents who have recently given birth. These contraceptives can last between three months (Depo Provera) and ten years (Copper-T).
World Contraception Day is observed globally every year on September 26. International organisations use this opportunity to highlight the various contraceptive options available to men and women with the vision that all pregnancies are planned.
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